Lets touch on something that I see everyday ... in and out of recovery.
When someone pulls out in front of you because they are in a rush ~ whats going on with their thinking? They are risking other peoples lives because THEY don't want to be inconvenienced by waiting for others to go by. Yet, it was because they were selfish with their own time ~ not getting up earlier, not quickly doing what they needed to do before they left ... that made them late to begin with! Talk about narcissism and "the world revolves around me!"
Sadly, I see this in recovery ALL THE TIME! No one want to take responsibility for their own accountability, and yet THEY don't want to be inconvenienced! They show up late to a doctors appointment ~ it's never THEIR fault, someone else always 'makes' them late ... it's never anything THEY did ... and they still want to be seen, normally right them because THEY have things to do and it would be an inconvenience to THEM if they had to reschedule. Are you kidding me with this shit?
If you show up late to the bank, and I mean just 2 min late ... guess what? You will cash your check tomorrow ... even if you are hungry, or broke, or whatever. It doesn't matter the excuse or reason as to WHY you were late. If you show up late to a movie and really wanted to see the beginning, the movie theater is NOT going to rewind it and start over because YOU had something you HAD to do before you came to the movies. The ballgame doesn't go back to the first inning, the race doesn't go back to the green flag, the play doesn't start back at act I ... and the WORLD doesn't revolve around YOU!
I understand things happen, but the society around you is NOT your drug dealer! If you are late, accept your consequences and go have a coke and a smile! Throwing a tantrum, pitching a fit, begging, pleading and the likes are the thoughts and actions of a 5 year old not getting their way (and those that are used to dealing with other people in the world of addiction).
A HUGE part of recovery is understanding that your actions or lack their of have consequences, and being ready to be accountable to those ... whatever they may be. If you don't want to personally be inconvenienced, I strongly suggest you take more accountability in your responsibilities! In the rooms I speak in, I teach that your thoughts have actions and consequences in the physical world, you can be assured that your physical actions do!
As the quote goes ~ "Stop looking out the window (for someone to blame), and start looking in the mirror!"
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am an addiction specialist and a full-time psychology student on the way to Dr. Davis in clinical psychology. I am currently crusading for the expedited paradigm shift in addiction recovery!