For those that don’t know me, I’m currently a full-time addiction specialist; full-time psychology student (on my way to Dr. Davis); mostly retired personal trainer (over 20 years now?); and have been lovingly deemed an anomaly, a boulder and Captain A (although the “A” has probably held more than one meaning in the past) by those closest to me. I come to you today in all sincerity with a question I have been pondering for quite sometime.
Why is it that so many things change once you leave/enter a gym? What type of magic is there that seems to exist at this sacred portal leading into the land of steel, iron, and rubber?
Let me try to explain this seemingly simple, yet very perplexing question. Do you ever try lifting heavier weights on your workout movements? Well of course you do! What a silly question you must be thinking, even for a psychology student. One must only glace at any of the many multimedia sights to indulge in a seemingly never ending stream of photo’s, videos, and self-proclaiming posts of people working on their 1RM or trying to conquer that ever elusive PR.
O.K. well I ask, what happens when you don’t get your lift? Do you just stop training because you are a failure? Do you just give up on that specific movement because you failed at it? Do you start blaming someone else for your failed lift? Do you quietly think to yourself that you must be being punished for something that you have done in the past? Or do you think that somehow you are not able to do this lift because of a karma of sorts?
No of course not! You simply try again, or try again tomorrow! This of course affords you the opportunity to upload more posts as well! These posts are often highlighted with the amount of time, grudging effort, and of course the trials and tribulations gone through to attain them. Many people also go that extra mile and will showcase the meals, supplements, and training moments involved in that hard road that eventually lead to that momentous moment of personal victory!
Wait! What? Let me get this right … You simply try again?! You just train harder and smarter? You eat better? You get advice on how to improve? And then you try again and again and again until that weight you are going after finally goes up? Fascinating!
So back to my question … why don’t we do that on the other side of the gym doors as well?
Why is it ok to ‘fail’ at something in the gym, but not in your life? Why is it ok to try something we might not achieve inside the gym, but it must be an almost for sure thing outside the gym? Why is it ok to try again and again at something you really want in the gym, but we give up on ourselves so easily on the other side of those doors? Why is it that we are never satisfied with our performance in the gym, but so many of us cut ourselves short and settle for just ‘ok’ or even less with regard to living our own lives? Why will we do everything needed to improve our performance on a lift, but not the performance of our profession? Why can we ask for help, assistance, and guidance in the gym, but we feel so isolated in life? Why will we make time for extra training, but not do the same for family or friends? Why is it we look forward to the gym, but hate our job, home or both? Why does the magic we all embrace at the gym have to stop at those doors?
Just thoughts to ponder!
I'd like to address something I deal with daily; how everyone feels about their past. I hear over and over and over again "I'm not who I was", "I used to be a good person", "I've wasted so much time", "I've hurt so many people" and on and on. While all of this might be very true there are two things that everyone seems to be forgetting ...
Another thought that many people forget is that "good" and "bad" is a matter of perception! We keep beating ourselves up for the 'bad' things we did, but what if ... those bad things saved someone's life?! What if the actions you are all torn up about changed another life for the better? Was it still a 'bad' thing?
There is a mentality that can be reached that will help you realize that everything in life is just an event ... it is not good or bad, it is simply what needs to happen at the time. We as bystanders then choose to label this event and that event as either good or bad based on our perception. The issue is, our perceptions of life and the grand scheme of things is VERY limited to say the least!
Learn to embrace the idea ... You are not your past, you are the summation of the potential of what resides inside of you!
You are the master of your fate, you are the captain of your soul!
Sorry it's been awhile. Been busy with psychology and life. However, just like my advice today ... you gotta make time for that daily grind!!
It's not about making huge gains one way or the other each day, it's about moving forward ... inch by inch, thought by though until you finally reach your goal; whatever that goal may be!
The grind is putting in time, putting in effort. It's pounding on whatever it is in life that you want to change. Don't want to smoke, grind. Want to do better in school, grind. Want to stop using ... GRIND! The only way anyone gets to the top is by spending hours and hours pounding on what they want to change in life!
Diamonds come into this world through heat and pressure, and are polished by friction! Gold is purified by fire. If you want to change ... you gotta build up some heat, you gotta use some friction ... you gotta grind!
So for those out there thinking about it, wanting to do something or start something ... welcome to the grind my friends!
See you all soon! As it's back to the grind!
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am passionate about helping people live fuller and happier lives!