For those that do not understand what a placebo is I'll try to quickly explain. A placebo is a 'sugar pill' or shot that has no medical benefit of any type. They are used in 'blind' studies to judge the effectiveness of new medications. The issue is, many people who get a 'placebo' react as if they received the actually medication. How is that?
How is it that in more than 80% of the studies on anti-depressants a 'sugar pill' works better than the actually 'medication'? How does someone who does NOT receive a surgery, but was cut like they did, fair better than those who actually got the surgery? How does a shot of saline water 'cure' someone of cancer?
The power of the 'mind' has been echoed throughout time, although it wasn't always called a 'placebo'. The ancients called it a 'talisman', 'trinket', 'charmed' or 'enchanted item'. It might have been created by a 'witch', 'shaman', 'elder', 'mystic', or 'god'.
What do you really think was happening when they 'carried' around their 'magic' stone? Do you think the stone was actually 'curing' them or do you think there was something else to it?
It has been shown that a shot of saline water can cause the brain to increase its production of dopamine by over 200%, and cause cancer tumors to melt away. And sugar pills have proved to be better at treating anxiety and depression than the actual medications they are tested against. The power of the mind and belief works all the time. YOU choose if its working for you or against you!
As a divine being you are capable of anything in life! The only limitations you have you set on yourself, or are those you accept from other people!
With that being said, we also need to evolve to grow as a spiritual being and this growing is not attained while we are 'zoned out' or 'numb' from the 'pains' of life! How are we supposed to learn the value of having things if you numb yourself anytime you 'lose' something? How do you learn that life is sometimes 'painful' if you always numb any pain?
I have a new motto for you all: "Learn to LOVE the pain, for when the pain subsides only strength remains!"
In order to actually 'recover', you must work through the driving issues in your past; you must learn how to think again; you must balance your neruo and bio chemicals; you must repair your body; you must repair damage done during the addiction itself; you must learn who you are again and what makes you happy in life; and anything else that needs to 'evolve'. NONE of these things can be done effectively while you are 'high', 'numb', 'foggy', or otherwise adding outside chemicals to your natural homeostasis!
Look at it like this: if you go into Algebra high because you don't want to 'deal with' the class, and don't pay attention to anything ... you are going to have to be forced to take it over and over again until you finally 'learn' the material. This COULD be what 'life' is trying to do for you as well.
"Pain" makes us change ... don't run from it, EMBRACE IT!
I want to touch on an idea about repeating the same life processes and expecting to achieve something different in your life ~ this IS the definition of insanity!
So here is the model: Same thoughts = same choices = same actions & behaviors = same experiences = same feelings = same old state of being!
Therefore if you want to CHANGE you have to change something about your daily routine, and it starts with your THOUGHTS! Which by the way is the only real thing that you have control over in your life ... isn't that handy!
So ... New thoughts would = new choices = new actions & behaviors = new experiences = new feelings = A NEW state of being!
The issue is, is we normally run around our day on 'autopilot'. So in order to 'change' anything, we must become aware of the destructive things we are currently doing. The old adage of "I can't fix it if I don't know what's broken" holds very true to your own thinking! You must learn to become aware of your thoughts.
One of the things you can start 'catching' are the thoughts: "always", "never", "must" or "had to", as they normally are NOT whole truths. Just changing these thoughts will have an impact on your life, and give you a good starting point on changing your overall thinking.
You HAVE the ability to change and control your thinking, you just need to spend the time LEARNING how to do it!
Today I want to address one of the largest triggers in addiction ~ stress! Everyone I talk to has 'tons' of stress issues: work, family, kids, money, cars, living situations, etc. I hate to point out the obvious, but you are stressing because you are tying to control things that you have no control over.
I'd have you embrace one of my favorite quotes ~ "you are a ghost driving a meat-coated skeleton made from stardust, riding a giant rock, that is hurtling through space, among billions of others doing the same ... fear NOTHING." You can easily replace fear with 'stress' in this example.
Another idea is "The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem. Today notice the solutions rather than the problems."
Try applying the WHOLE serenity prayer, and if you don't have it or don't know it I'll help you out ~
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference ... (here is the rest of the story) ... Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at at time; accepting hardship as a pathway to peace (not a punishment), taking as Jesus did this sinful world as it it, not as I would have it (our greatest producer of unwanted moods). Trusting that you (being your higher power) will make all things right if I surrender to your will; so that I may be reasonable happy in this life and supremely happy with you in the next."
You are still here and kicking, which is a direct testomony that things normally workout and do so for the best. So YOU are creating your own stress, as the situation WILL workout and it will do so whether you stress or not! So CHOOSE to let it go, and focus on things you CAN control like: enjoying a sunrise or sunset, enjoying a cup of good coffee, laughing with your kids/spouse/friends, reading a good book, taking a walk or ride, star gazing, bird watching, painting/drawing, or whatever brings you happiness!
Today I'd like to address the obvious! If you do not do something different today then tomorrow is going to bring you exactly what you had today.
If you are not currently living your dreams, what are you doing today to help bring your dreams closer to reality tomorrow? Look at it like this ... if you were not high, you would be doing everything you can to attain that high as soon as you could! So why are we not doing that with your own dreams?
Is it because you are afraid to fail? Let me let you in on a new favorite quote of mine: "Our deepest fears are like dragons guarding our deepest treasures!" You only fail when you STOP trying!
So here is the idea: do THREE things EVERYDAY to help bring you closer to actually living your dreams. They can be ANYTHING that is different and more productive than you did today.
You could just start your day with making your bed, taking a shower, and eating a good meal! Those may be three things that you did not do yesterday. Now tomorrow do those three things, plus three more NEW things! That will make 21 steps a week! That's 84 a month! In now time, your dreams will be much closer to realities, AND you will be feeling much better about you and your life!
Do NOT be a bystander in your own life!
Well of course it is! And for many many reasons!
First I would caution anyone who says it's 'not', and ask why they think it can't be done ... as normally those who say it can't be are the ones who haven't figured out how themselves, and if THEY can't then in their mind no one can; this is addictive thinking at its best! Just like the idea that: you can't help me if you haven't done what I've done. They are just thinking in inverse of this. As all those who HAVE recovered definitely believe it can be done ha ha!
There are people who 'spontaneously recover', those that find it in meetings or any of the various recovery programs, those that find it in church or other spiritual programs, those that fight it out on their own, and others. So before you accept that it CAN'T be done ... consider the source!
So how does FULL recovery happen? Look at it like this ... Say you just ended an abusive relationship of 15 years. How do you suppose you would 'recover' from the loss/change/damage in your life?
Well you would need to truly let go of the person. You would have to come to terms with the idea that the relationship is really over, and that no matter what your mind says to you, you need to stay away at all costs. You would need to talk and sort through all the mental and physical damage that happened during that 15 years. You would need to find 'yourself' again, your own friends again, and your own way of living again. You would need to learn to start taking care of yourself, relying only on yourself, and loving yourself for who you are. You would have to start accepting responsibility for all things in your life, both good things and bad. You would need to learn how to laugh again, learn that its safe and actually healthy to voice and address your real feelings.
In short you would need to heal all the pain and damage caused in the relationship ... AND before, fix/repair/learn all the things that you should have known already that would have been needed to actually leave the relationship years ago, and become your 'true' self. Not the version you have in your head, but actually embrace the divine being who is already inside of you!
Do these things ... and one day, you could even run into your ex and wish them well! Recovery is the same way!!!
You know, I hear all the time "why don't they just stop?" So for all those out there that think that people dealing with addiction should just "stop" drinking, or using … I have a little task for you.
First I want you to think about what you love to do more than anything else in the world. Something that you will even put above loved ones like: Have you ever cheated on a loved one, stayed up on the computer even though your loved one went to bed, gaming with online friends vs being with family, bought something even though you might have been tight on money, ate something even though your doctor told you not to, what about constantly checking your phone while with other people, how about texting others while driving?
So here we have examples of everyday choices that people are making that are both a direct detriment to their own life, the life of others, and examples of putting something else ahead of people that you supposedly love … yet it seems acceptable in today's society?
So let's touch on "chemicals"; how about that morning cup of coffee? That first cigarette of the day? What about that soda instead of water or sweet tea instead of unsweetened? Anyone deal with those late night sweets? Endless bags of potato chips? Bags of cookies?
Well since it's so easy to just "stop" using drugs, why don't you try giving up your most beloved 'habit' for even just 10 days. But remember all drugs are triggers to your main drug of choice so if you give up something like 'facebook' you have to give up all social media and all computers, smartphones, tablets etc. If you give up your cookies, you have to give up ALL sugar, not just adding sugar but everything that has sugar in it. If you give up your coffee, you have to give up all caffeine; meaning energy drinks, pills, and the likes!
Oh, and you can't talk to any of your friends or family during this time either. Why? Well all your friends are the ones who you did drugs with, or got drugs from, or sold drugs to so you need to stay away from them, and well many family members are the ones who got you started and at best your relationship is on the rocks so to avoid any undue stress its best just to stay away from them.
Oh, and don't go anywhere you used to go. As that is where your friends or family would go, and of course you might have used during any of those visits to those areas so you want to not trigger any ideas. Plus you don't what to run into someone using a laptop or smartphone? Or what if someone is giving away free coffee or cookies?
Oh, and l almost forgot. You need to eat some rotten food so that you get food poisoning, it won't be quite as bad as being dope sick, nor will it last as long but it should give you the general 'gist' anyway … of course unlike your food poisoning, dope sickness will go away instantly upon the use of the drug of choice.
But hell, its "easy" right? Just stay away from everything you know, do it alone, and feel like you are dope sick for 10-30 days and you'll be in the clear … assuming you can actually find the reason why you kept using to begin with and get that issue treated by a counselor or psychiatrist! This shouldn't be an issue with your amazing self image, self worth, and overflowing self respect!
The first step in resolving a problem, is understanding the problem … and this problem requires much more than "just say no."
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am an addiction specialist and a full-time psychology student on the way to Dr. Davis in clinical psychology. I am currently crusading for the expedited paradigm shift in addiction recovery!