Today, I want to talk about something that is currently very close to my heart ... death. Unfortunately, the day we are born the wick of our life's candle is lit and it starts its slow burn throughout the length of our life. If we are lucky we spent the majority of our time, illuminating things in life that we enjoyed or looked forward too! Too often however, we continue to look at regret, sadness, remorse and the like and burn much of our candle on 'the past' instead of 'the now' in which we actually live.
This very thing happens when someone we love dies. We feel lost, or alone, as though part of us died as well, and what sometimes happens, is 'we' stop living as well.
But why do we do this to ourselves? Would the person that passed want you to live in sadness? Would they want you to be 'wasting' your life away living in the days that 'were'? If anything, don't you think they would want you to live your life 'fuller' than you had been? Wouldn't they tell you that "life is precious, make sure you make the most of it" ? Wouldn't they tell you to quite waiting to live your dreams, and to start living them?
Folks, death just happens because the conditions are present at that time. If bread is left out in the rain, it will fall apart. Not because the rain is punishing the bread, nor because the bread is good or bad, its simply the result of the conditions. If you leave bread in the sun, it will dry out. If you leave it in a damp area it will mold. Again, not because of any punishments or because something is good or evil, but because the conditions of life were present to facilitate death. The goal of happiness, is to enjoy the bread that the world gives you while the world lets you have it!
Another thing to keep in mind ... 20,000 kids starve to death EVERYDAY! Death itself is not impacting you, its only that you were emotionally tied to the person that you lost. Focus on the GOOD memories. YOU are in full control of the 'videos' that you play in your mind. YOU choose which 'tapes' to play. Focus on editing the bad thoughts out, and focusing on the good ones!
Death, much like life is what you choose to make of it!
So there is a trend I find in everyone that I talk to that is 'trying' to recover, but hasn't quite made it yet ... they don't do anywhere near what they did in recovery as they did while in active addiction!
So let me be obvious here ... if you are trying to totally change who you were, then you have to basically do a 180 on EVERYTHING that you were!
You ALREADY have the drive in you, you already have the energy in you, you already have EVERYTHING you will need to recover ... IN YOU! You just have to decide THAT is what you want!
Stop ... thinking about it ... trying to ... working on it ...
Don't THINK about it ... BE about it!!!
Here is a great site for information ~ http://treatmenttoday.com/ .
They have also been generous enough to use some of my writing and you can see 'today's' blog by visiting their site at http://treatmenttoday.com/blog/addiction-treatments-just-say-no-again/
I hope everyone has a wonderful day today! See you all around the virtual block!
Today is just about finding that 'why' inside you ...
So how do you kick start that desire to want to change? Maybe hearing that in 2011 17,000 Americans died of drug overdoses will get your attention, if not maybe hearing that last year 26,000 died from non-intentional overdoses ~ That’s almost a 10,000 person jump in just a few years!
Yes you read that correctly; 26,000 people died from drugs that didn't mean to … IN ONE YEAR! To put that into numbers that are not so vague, the U.S. lost 58,220 military personnel during the Vietnam war … and it lasted 19 years and 180 days! That means on average we lost 2,911 military personnel each year. Now back to that addiction death toll: it means that 900% more people are dying accidentally on drugs than were actually getting killed each year in the Vietnam war.
Folks, if you play Russian roulette long enough you are going to land on a live round!
But hey, maybe death doesn't phase you. Maybe you are ready to die. Maybe you don't care if you die. Maybe you have died before but you are still hear. So maybe it's not death that motivates you, maybe you are just getting sick and tired of being sick and tired!
Maybe you are sick and tired of:
Going to prison, going to jail, visiting friends or loved ones who are incarcerated, bonding out of jail, going to court, court costs, fines, public defendants, paying attorney fees, paying fines, paying your probation officer, going to your probation officer, community service, being violated, random drug screens, being nervous when a police car is behind you, being hassled by the police, dealing with social services, worrying about social services, home inspections, losing your home, losing your car, losing your kids, parenting classes, supervised visits, hassles at the hospital, hassles at the pharmacy, hassles with friends and family, watching people overdose, attending funerals, witnessing shootings, witnessing stabbings, your home getting robbed, people stealing from you, being raped, being abused, being beaten, selling sex, being broke, being sick, staying up for days, not eating for days, not having energy, being depressed, panic attacks, headaches, toothaches, stomach issues, restless legs ...
What else could I even add to this???
If you want to recover, you must first believe that it is even possible! As if you don't believe your efforts will eventually be rewarded than most likely you will not do the work needed to reach that goal.
Much like, if I told you that you could fly the space shuttle. Really you could! If you started down a specific career path, started rubbing elbows with the right people, starting a strict training program and diet ... you COULD eventually fly.
HOWEVER! If you don't believe that you can actually do it, how much of the list of things that you need to do are you going to do on a regular basis? Exactly. Not a damn thing! Why waste the time, money, effort, etc. if its not going to happen anyway?
You must first believe that recovery is possible!
Let me call a spade, a spade today. The phrase I hear all the time while talking to people in recovery ... I'll try.
Are you kidding me?! I'll try?! Let me ask you, did you 'try' to stay high or did you just DO IT?! Did you 'try' to find drugs, or did you FIND THEM?! Did you try to get some money, or did you do WHATEVER IT TOOK to make it happen?!
I bet if meditation made your ass high, you would do it! If fresh fruit and vegetables could make your buzz last, that you would have a stock pile! And if running ... well it DOES make you high, so you should try it!
I ask you the question I have been asking since I started helping people in recovery ... WHY is it that up until yesterday (the day before you started recovery) NOTHING was impossible; yet today no one has ANY idea how they will ever fit all these things they need to do for recovery into their 'busy' day?
You were just spending ALL DAY, EVERY DAY chasing drugs! And now you can't seem to find 30 min to go for a walk? You used to sit around zoned out all day, and now you can't do it for 20 min while meditating?!
Try putting forth 1/4 of the effort you put into staying high and YOU WILL NOT FAIL!!!
Some information that could help change your life in addiction recovery is finally making its way into the mainstream media!
For those of us in the fitness field, we have seen these results over our entire career. The benefits of cardio training.
A study at Duke University back in 1999, did a head to head test with Zoloft and exercise (where exercise equaled 30 min of cardio x3 a week at 70-85% of your max heart rate) and not only did exercise do as well as Zoloft in the early trials, but did even better in the long run ... no pun intended.
Addiction is hard enough ... do everything you can to help you, help you!
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am an addiction specialist and a full-time psychology student on the way to Dr. Davis in clinical psychology. I am currently crusading for the expedited paradigm shift in addiction recovery!