I hope this finds you all doing well, and enjoying the day!
There is an ancient stoic thought that goes something like this: You cannot get upset over any loss; be it the loss of your wallet, the loss of a favorite 'thing' or even the loss of a loved one. Why? Because it was never yours to begin with. The world gave you things, and then the world decided to take them back; period. So why get upset? The goal to experience the most amount of happiness would be, to fully enjoy the things the world lets you have, while the world lets you have them.
In my experience, it is this last part that most people have the biggest issue with. The feel and act, almost like a child when you take their 'toy' away … hey I wasn't done playing with that! Give it back!
The other big issue is normally: "Where did they go?", "Are they ok?", "Do they feel anything?", "Can they hear or see me?" and the likes.
This second part is totally up to you and your religious beliefs. I would strongly suggest that you look into more than just one 'view' of death and what happens next; as you may find more comfort than you are currently experiencing.
The first part, I can try to help with. First allow yourself to grieve! As a doctor once said: grieving is a natural response to a natural process as a result of loss, it is NOT a prozac deficiency!
Everyone must eventually go through the five step grieving process when they lose someone:
Your mind is what is holding you back. Learn to change how you think about death, and you will change your life. I strongly recommend looking into Buddhism, they have a very 'living' outlook. If you don't want to keep feeling and reacting the way you have been, you MUST do something different. As if you don't change … nothing changes!
Have a wonderful day! Expect something amazing to happen today!
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am an addiction specialist and a full-time psychology student on the way to Dr. Davis in clinical psychology. I am currently crusading for the expedited paradigm shift in addiction recovery!