Well of course it is! And for many many reasons!
First I would caution anyone who says it's 'not', and ask why they think it can't be done ... as normally those who say it can't be are the ones who haven't figured out how themselves, and if THEY can't then in their mind no one can; this is addictive thinking at its best! Just like the idea that: you can't help me if you haven't done what I've done. They are just thinking in inverse of this. As all those who HAVE recovered definitely believe it can be done ha ha!
There are people who 'spontaneously recover', those that find it in meetings or any of the various recovery programs, those that find it in church or other spiritual programs, those that fight it out on their own, and others. So before you accept that it CAN'T be done ... consider the source!
So how does FULL recovery happen? Look at it like this ... Say you just ended an abusive relationship of 15 years. How do you suppose you would 'recover' from the loss/change/damage in your life?
Well you would need to truly let go of the person. You would have to come to terms with the idea that the relationship is really over, and that no matter what your mind says to you, you need to stay away at all costs. You would need to talk and sort through all the mental and physical damage that happened during that 15 years. You would need to find 'yourself' again, your own friends again, and your own way of living again. You would need to learn to start taking care of yourself, relying only on yourself, and loving yourself for who you are. You would have to start accepting responsibility for all things in your life, both good things and bad. You would need to learn how to laugh again, learn that its safe and actually healthy to voice and address your real feelings.
In short you would need to heal all the pain and damage caused in the relationship ... AND before, fix/repair/learn all the things that you should have known already that would have been needed to actually leave the relationship years ago, and become your 'true' self. Not the version you have in your head, but actually embrace the divine being who is already inside of you!
Do these things ... and one day, you could even run into your ex and wish them well! Recovery is the same way!!!
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am an addiction specialist and a full-time psychology student on the way to Dr. Davis in clinical psychology. I am currently crusading for the expedited paradigm shift in addiction recovery!