For those that don’t know me, I’m currently a full-time addiction specialist; full-time psychology student (on my way to Dr. Davis); mostly retired personal trainer (over 20 years now?); and have been lovingly deemed an anomaly, a boulder and Captain A (although the “A” has probably held more than one meaning in the past) by those closest to me. I come to you today in all sincerity with a question I have been pondering for quite sometime.
Why is it that so many things change once you leave/enter a gym? What type of magic is there that seems to exist at this sacred portal leading into the land of steel, iron, and rubber?
Let me try to explain this seemingly simple, yet very perplexing question. Do you ever try lifting heavier weights on your workout movements? Well of course you do! What a silly question you must be thinking, even for a psychology student. One must only glace at any of the many multimedia sights to indulge in a seemingly never ending stream of photo’s, videos, and self-proclaiming posts of people working on their 1RM or trying to conquer that ever elusive PR.
O.K. well I ask, what happens when you don’t get your lift? Do you just stop training because you are a failure? Do you just give up on that specific movement because you failed at it? Do you start blaming someone else for your failed lift? Do you quietly think to yourself that you must be being punished for something that you have done in the past? Or do you think that somehow you are not able to do this lift because of a karma of sorts?
No of course not! You simply try again, or try again tomorrow! This of course affords you the opportunity to upload more posts as well! These posts are often highlighted with the amount of time, grudging effort, and of course the trials and tribulations gone through to attain them. Many people also go that extra mile and will showcase the meals, supplements, and training moments involved in that hard road that eventually lead to that momentous moment of personal victory!
Wait! What? Let me get this right … You simply try again?! You just train harder and smarter? You eat better? You get advice on how to improve? And then you try again and again and again until that weight you are going after finally goes up? Fascinating!
So back to my question … why don’t we do that on the other side of the gym doors as well?
Why is it ok to ‘fail’ at something in the gym, but not in your life? Why is it ok to try something we might not achieve inside the gym, but it must be an almost for sure thing outside the gym? Why is it ok to try again and again at something you really want in the gym, but we give up on ourselves so easily on the other side of those doors? Why is it that we are never satisfied with our performance in the gym, but so many of us cut ourselves short and settle for just ‘ok’ or even less with regard to living our own lives? Why will we do everything needed to improve our performance on a lift, but not the performance of our profession? Why can we ask for help, assistance, and guidance in the gym, but we feel so isolated in life? Why will we make time for extra training, but not do the same for family or friends? Why is it we look forward to the gym, but hate our job, home or both? Why does the magic we all embrace at the gym have to stop at those doors?
Just thoughts to ponder!
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am passionate about helping people live fuller and happier lives!