In the field of recovery, there is only so much you can do for someone. You can give them advice and redirection; you can give them different ways of thinking; you can give them coping tools; you can schedule apts for them; you can give them the addresses of other places that can help.
However, if they don't 'want to' then there is nothing "we can do for them." They have to want to stay away from people; they have to want to make the apts; they have to want to read the new ways of thinking; they have to ... do the work. None of this can be forced upon anyone else, it must be shouldered by the person actually going through the battle of recovery.
Now here is the rub, in order for those around you to be able to help you ... you have to tell them the truth about what is going on! The old adage of "you can't fix it if you don't know it's not broken" is just as true in helping people in recovery. Keeping the truth from those that are trying to care for you, is not helping you. And keeping the truth from yourself, is even worse! Telling yourself that everyone is out to get you, or no one cares, or everyone is judging you ... is just allowing you to stay in active addiction!
In recovery ... the truth will set you free!
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am passionate about helping people live fuller and happier lives!