So if addiction in not an incurable disease how do you go about actually recovering?
You MUST do three things before you can really start to fully recover.
First you must decide that YOU really WANT to recover, and that drive needs to be for you first. You can use family, or friends, or your child as extra motivation but your main desire needs to be that 'you' are finally ready to be clean. This is coming to your 'bottom' as some in the field say. Or finally becoming sick and tired of being sick and tired. You must want to be clean!
Second you must think you are worthy of recovery. I have met way to many people who feel like they 'deserve' what they are getting. That their life is somehow punishment for things they have done in the past. That they would like to recover, but they have done to much damage to themselves, or to others to ever be 'worthy' of living a happy life again. You must believe you deserve to be well and happy.
And third, you must believe it is possible to recover. I hear the constant echo of "well I'm different", "I'm glad it worked for them but it won't work for me", "I've tried recovery, it doesn't work for me", "I've used to much to recovery", "I've used to long to recover", and on and on and on. Recovery is not just going to fall in your lap (for most people) so you must believe that it is possible or you will most likely not do the work needed. As Nietzsche said "the man who has a 'why' can suffer through almost any how."
Now don't get me wrong. You can start down the path of recovery without any of these. However, you will not start doing the hard work until these beliefs are met. You will not dig into the past and forgive yourself and others; you will not do the work to change how you think; you will not relearn what makes you happy; and you will not make the necessary lifestyle changes, until you think you can. Of course I dare you to prove me wrong! But this has been my experience thus far in the thousands of lives I have had the privilege of being part of.
Look at it this way. What if I told you "(insert name), you could be an astronaut! I'm serious! All you have to do is go back to school, start rubbing elbows with the right people, change your eating habits, start working out on a regular basis, and you have a shot!" Now if you don't believe me, if you don't believe you can, or you don't believe you would be able to due to your past; how much of all that shit that I listed are you going to do? Exactly, none of it!
You MUST believe in order to achieve!
Who am I?
I have been called "Sirthinkalot" and "The mender of souls." I am an addiction specialist and a full-time psychology student on the way to Dr. Davis in clinical psychology. I am currently crusading for the expedited paradigm shift in addiction recovery!