I have a few tricks-of-the-trade from back when I was doing construction during the day and bouncing four nights a week.
1. Stay hydrated ~ all body functions work better when hydrated, especially your brain 2. Melatonin or one of the ‘sleep-mixes’ that has melatonin in it 3. Warm … not hot or cold, shower before bed to help relax everything 4. Some form of cookies and milk … the protein from the milk is used for serotonin (which is then turned into melatonin … see melatonin above lol), and the sweets help the proteins cross the blood-brain barrier 5. Make it dark and cold in the room (your body naturally cools off at night before bed) … although people (as you advocate) do like it hot as well 6. No blue-screen 1-2 hours before bed, blue-screen kills your body’s production of melatonin 7. Some form of ‘white-noise’ (fan for me) … it helps get you into REM quicker and keeps you there longer 8. Some form of body meditation as you fall asleep … helps quiet the mind and further relax the body for better rest These are the first ones that come to mind. I’m sure there are others out there. Illegitimi non Carborundum!
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What is Happiness, and how does one Sustain it?
This is why a bag of cookies, sex, a good movie, an ice-cold adult beverage, or the perfect cup of coffee can help facilitate (not create as it is our judgment that creates one or the other) ‘happiness’ … but soon after the experience, the happiness fades, as it is short lasting by default (unless you ‘dwell’ on the event or feeling … which is exactly what we do with stress, anger, and depression … so why don’t we do it on positive emotions? The topic of another talk perhaps.) Joy can happen very frequently in the service of others. Buy yourself a coffee, and it’s short-term happiness. Participate in a random act of kindness and buy someone else’s coffee, and it can give you a sense of long-term happiness … aka joy. Hence the old idea that it is better to give than receive. There was an old Indian sage or guru who was asked, how do you stay so calm, happy, and peaceful all the time? His answer was … “I simply don’t mind what happens.” The Fix … if you are not happy
Understand that life is going to be painful. It is going to be hard. It is going to be challenging. It is going to be outside your own preferences and likes. However, you do NOT have to ‘suffer’ on top of the difficulties of life … if you choose not to judge that life is ‘wrong.’ Remember, you are the master of your fate, you are the captain of your soul … and no one is coming to save you! So get after it! How to actually “make changes” in your life and routines …
In working with people in both the fitness field (over 20 years) and the mental health field (over 13 years) one of the largest obstacles people talk about is actually applying the information that they learn. Why is it so hard? 1. 90-95% of your day is subconscious and unconscious programming; you are literally running on autopilot … this means you are trying to change and add things with 5-10% of your conscious brain … which makes it like trying to ice skate uphill 2. We don’t pay attention to individual things; we respond to patterns of recognition (aka schema … this is our subconscious and unconscious programming) 3. Your brain, aka your psyche, doesn’t like change as it likes to think it knows what is going to happen tomorrow … and on an evolutionary level, change can get you killed (new foods, new people, and new places can all be dangerous) 4. Most people just wing it, and without a real plan that you can see both the end game as well as the path, the motivation to change will wane (see my previous post on motivation) What to do? 1. Get VERY clear about what you want to change or add to your life (you can’t pay attention to things you want to change if you don’t know what you are looking for … aka priming) 2. Become more mindful of what you are actually doing ~ use apps, set reminders, set alarms, use accountability partners, whatever it takes to help get you out of auto-pilot as much as possible 3. SHATTER YOUR ROUTINES! Adding new things to old routines is hard BUT adding new things to new routines is fairly easy. Go to a different coffee place, drink from a different mug, brush your teeth with your other hand, take a different route to work, speak with people you don’t normally speak with, and so on. 4. DO NOT beat yourself up for not adhering to something. Your psyche avoids pain 3x more than it chases pleasure, so if you beat yourself up for not doing something, you are actually MORE PRONE to avoid it all together … try to make it FUN! If you have any questions about any of this, feel free to chime in or contact me directly Illegitimi non Carborundum!
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