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Today I'd like to talk a bit about a subject that is very difficult for many people ... forgiveness. Over the years I have found a progression of understanding that is linked to the progression of the topic. 1. First people are controlled by their inner emotions that are linked to other people or events ~ this is normally in the form of guilt, regret, anger, despair, distain, and the like. 2. When people become aware of their suffering they can decide to perhaps do something about these now long-term emotions that have turned into moods, personality traits which then manifested into patterns of behavior ~ this is due to the minds adaptations and compensations to how it feels it needs to interact with the world to stay safe. 3. People begin the process of working on forgiving others and themselves for the events of the past ... but often find that their works are futile even after months and even years of attempts ~ and now why that is ... 4. Ultimately one finally understands as there is no right or wrong there is really nothing to forgive to begin with. This means that true forgiveness needs to dig into the idea that it was YOUR judgement of the person or situation or yourself that created your longterm pain. Much like the Taoists and Buddhists advocate, judging something harshly is like drinking a poison and expecting the other person to get sick. The reality is, "forgiveness" is simply setting down out "judgement." When we no longer judge something there are no more emotional attachments to that person or idea. Therefore, we become "free" again. The "weight" that is lifted are the metaphorical chains that have connected us to the judgement. Therefore, the work in forgiveness is not in "letting someone off the hook" but in retracting our own thoughts that something was "wrong" in how the world happened that day. As the Buddhists advocate, the end of suffering resides in losing ones attachments. In the realm of forgiveness this means the attachment to "right" and "wrong" or "good" and "bad" and to how "YOU WANTED" or expected or thought that something or someone should have ... 'fill in the blank'. This means that forgiveness resides more in trusting that the world is for you and not against you. And that perhaps the infinite something of the universe understands better what you need for your own ~ physical, spiritual, and emotional growth than what our limited and biased perceptions provide us. Let the healing begin with the idea that ... there is nothing to forgive because there was nothing that was done that needed to be done differently. Illegitimi non Carborundum!
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