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Want to "upgrade" your life? DE~STRESS!! Your brain is naturally an innovative, creative, inspirational, intuitive, problem-solving machine BUT it is literally "stupid" when it stays in chronic stress. Stress is a natural response but your systems were NOT designed to stay in stress for prolonged periods of time. Stress can be physical, psychological, chemical, and environmental ... and just because you don't 'feel' stressed doesn't mean your system isn't. Stress is created by "your" narratives that are based on "your" beliefs about how you 'think' things should be ... THAT'S IT! Your beliefs are the 'meanings' you give things ... 'this' is 'good' ... 'this' is 'bad' ... 'this' is 'ok' ... 'this' is 'not ok' ... and so on. This means that ... YOU can change them ANYTIME you want! The rub is, as they are your beliefs and your meanings that makes them real to you, and challenging your own beliefs is difficult as it creates a cognitive dissonance. It is a literal 'forest for the trees' kind of thing. This is why it can be hard to change things on your own, and why even if you 'want' to change it can still be very hard to change ... beliefs are literally 'hard-wired' in your brain. But thanks to neuroplasticity you CAN change them. Start by simply getting off the rat wheel and taking a deep breath! RELAX! Get out of fight or flight ... and then you can get to work! Illegitimi non Carborundum!
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Hello Sports Fans :)
Why is it so hard to change beliefs? First, a belief by default is ‘true’ to you … as you were the one who gave the belief ‘meaning’. Second, as ‘you’ are the one who gave it its initial meaning ‘you’ must be the one who changes the meaning … which is why people can’t just ‘tell’ you what to believe. Third, most people don’t get to the real ‘root’ of the initial meaning when they try to change things. For example … if you are depressed about your life, people look at what is currently going on in life not what beliefs created the current situations in life. Illegitimi non Carborundum! Hello Sports Fans :)
The first step in gaining control over your feelings is to get control over your ‘body’ again. This means DO the things you say you want to do. Start small … 1. Do, RIGHT NOW … 5 bodyweight squats or 5 push-ups … if you can’t make yourself do that, you are hosed when it comes to dealing with your depression or anxiety. 2. Add 10 seconds of cold or cooler water during a shower … if you won’t try this, you won’t do the hard mental work either. 3. Command yourself to ‘sit’ and be ‘still’ for 2 minutes … if you can’t why do you expect kids to be able to lol … AND if you can’t then where is the surprise you have an issue dealing with your feelings? It starts that simply … start getting your ‘brain’ in control of your body again. Once you have ‘control’ it will be MUCH easier to ‘control’ or redirect your feelings as well. As “feelings” resonate with the body where “thoughts” are obviously the mind. The goal is to learn to THINK higher than you FEEL! 🙂 Illegitimi non Carborundum! Hello Sports Fans :)
Changing your habits and thinking is not rocket science … people by nature are just lazy and we lean towards what is comfortable and routine. This is why, if you want to change, you must become comfortable being uncomfortable 🙂 Illegitimi non Carborundum! Hello Sports Fans :)
So here is how you can dissect your own “issues” … Beliefs —–> Thoughts Thoughts —–> Emotions Emotions —–> Actions / Behaviors Actions ——> Results Results reinforce Beliefs If you aren’t experiencing something in your life that you would like to look at what is ‘upstream’ from it. For example, if you want to change your emotions ~ look to your thoughts and beliefs to see where things are going side-ways. Most of the time you are either in avoidance or overcompensation … figure out ‘why’ your psyche thinks you are not going to be ok … and you can make huge changes in your life 🙂 Illegitimi non Carborundum! Hello Sports Fans!
I'm looking into a new way to try and help everyone ... voice thread. If you have not heard of it or checked it out you can go "here" or to www.voicethread.com to learn more. You will need your own voice thread account to be able to comment on my upcoming posts. As far as I know, a single account is free. I hope you enjoy the new adventure! Hello again Sports Fans!
Today I'd like to talk a bit about a subject that is very difficult for many people ... forgiveness. Over the years I have found a progression of understanding that is linked to the progression of the topic. 1. First people are controlled by their inner emotions that are linked to other people or events ~ this is normally in the form of guilt, regret, anger, despair, distain, and the like. 2. When people become aware of their suffering they can decide to perhaps do something about these now long-term emotions that have turned into moods, personality traits which then manifested into patterns of behavior ~ this is due to the minds adaptations and compensations to how it feels it needs to interact with the world to stay safe. 3. People begin the process of working on forgiving others and themselves for the events of the past ... but often find that their works are futile even after months and even years of attempts ~ and now why that is ... 4. Ultimately one finally understands as there is no right or wrong there is really nothing to forgive to begin with. This means that true forgiveness needs to dig into the idea that it was YOUR judgement of the person or situation or yourself that created your longterm pain. Much like the Taoists and Buddhists advocate, judging something harshly is like drinking a poison and expecting the other person to get sick. The reality is, "forgiveness" is simply setting down out "judgement." When we no longer judge something there are no more emotional attachments to that person or idea. Therefore, we become "free" again. The "weight" that is lifted are the metaphorical chains that have connected us to the judgement. Therefore, the work in forgiveness is not in "letting someone off the hook" but in retracting our own thoughts that something was "wrong" in how the world happened that day. As the Buddhists advocate, the end of suffering resides in losing ones attachments. In the realm of forgiveness this means the attachment to "right" and "wrong" or "good" and "bad" and to how "YOU WANTED" or expected or thought that something or someone should have ... 'fill in the blank'. This means that forgiveness resides more in trusting that the world is for you and not against you. And that perhaps the infinite something of the universe understands better what you need for your own ~ physical, spiritual, and emotional growth than what our limited and biased perceptions provide us. Let the healing begin with the idea that ... there is nothing to forgive because there was nothing that was done that needed to be done differently. Illegitimi non Carborundum! |
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